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Many gay bars cater to younger, attractive crowds, leaving older men to the fringes of the social scene. Man/Boy Love is as old as love itself, and stories of it have been told for thousands of years. Yet for people like Felsenthal, these older men are the ones who bring them comfort, stability, and a sense of belonging.

Sachi Wickramasinghe. This research helps us move beyond stereotypes. Silver daddies: Why do young adult men like older partners? In contrast to what many people assume, I found little evidence of widespread power differences that harmed either the younger or older men.

For this book, I interviewed men in their twenties and thirties who partnered with older men, and men in their forties through late sixties who partnered with younger adult men in their twenties and thirties. Sep 12, We spoke to Dr. Silva about his findings.

Some of the reasons why the younger adult men pursued age-gap relationships included a preference for emotionally mature partners, finding older men physically attractive and a desire to learn from older men. Living alone with his father with whom he has a complex a.

'Wolves' is the story of Josh, a sixteen year-old boy from a small town in the English countryside. Many of the younger adult men also found age-gap pairings sexually exciting and emotionally fulfilling and were drawn by the idea of having a mentor or role model in their partner.

For many of the older men I spoke to, being a daddy was not just about age and sexual and romantic partnerships, but also a sense of responsibility, mentorship and guidance. Check out our latest News Tips. The term has gained popularity in recent years, and while it is used in the context of heterosexual, gay or bisexual relationships, research across the Western world shows that age-gap relationships are far more prevalent among gay and bisexual men than any other group.

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And who is most likely to engage in age-gap relationships, and why? Many people think of a daddy as a desirable, confident older man who may be paired with a younger partner. Some of the older men actively identified as daddies, while others did not necessarily identify that way, but still fulfilled a daddy role and were aware that others saw them as daddies.

I was interested in finding out why, and learning more about the older men who identify or are perceived as daddies, and what it means to them. The youngest daddy I interviewed was 43, and in general, men started seeing themselves as daddies in their 40s.

Through these stories, we can gain insights into the nature of man/boy relationships in various manifestations and social settings. Search Subscribe. UBC News. As daddies, they saw themselves as providing emotional support, wisdom and life experience to their younger partners: whether that means helping younger adult men figure out career paths, how to come out, or how to integrate into gay and bisexual communities.

For many older men, it was also a point of pride and self-worth, as they felt that their age and experience made them more attractive and desirable to younger men. Looking for a new story idea? Felsenthal describes the challenges of navigating a gay scene that largely dismisses intergenerational love.

Contrary to the popular stereotype of older men going after younger guys, it was often younger men who approached them on dating apps once they had silver hair or had other physical markers of aging, and that really sparked their transformation into a daddy.

We spoke to UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva about why younger adult men are interested in older men for sex and relationships.