Gay father and son

I had decided I needed to be safe, free of the stress and emotionally sane to be a good father to my boys, even if that meant transitioning from every involved dad day-to-day to a day shuttling between Chicago and the suburbs of Detroit multiples times a month.

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It had been a long 15 months since coming out to my wife, an experience I unfortunately wouldn't describe as positive, fun or something I ever want to repeat. We chose the school because we wanted to give our kids access to the best education and a strong foundation to take on the world.

Scott Takacs, a year-old and father of three, penned a personal essay about his experience coming out as a gay man to his sons. It wasn't necessarily a bad topic, it just wasn't discussed. Gay stories, lgbtq+ stories, love stories That weekend was one of the most confusing yet strangely thrilling times of my life.

It was 15 months later that I started that same conversation with my three boys -- 9-year-old twins and an year-old. Read about his journey below in his own words. Scott Takacs, a year-old and father of three, penned a personal essay about his experience coming out as a gay man to his wife and his children.

Over 15 months, I had finalized the divorce, moved again and taken a new job based in Chicago, miles away from my boys. The whole experience is somewhat of a blur, mostly in part to the fact that at that point in my life there was a lot of change happening and some significant pent-up emotions.

With many emotions and stress, I accepted her request to keep the reason for our divorce -- due to me being gay -- a secret for at least another year. Even prior to coming out, it was hard for me to hear my kids come home with stories of teachers degrading gay marriage or gay people, to see it in their workbooks, reinforcing the bias against being gay.

My kids listened and followed their lead.

Dad 39 s reaction

I was 42 years old when I came out to my wife. My kids attended a very conservative, private Christian school. Half a Closet” is a moving and heartfelt story about the evolving relationship between a closeted gay father and his teenage son who is learning to embrace his own identity.

I never thought much of my dad being alone with me. When the moment to break the news to my kids finally came, I had a lot of issues to navigate. The distance was to create some space between my now ex-wife, who struggled being in proximity to me.

When Julian stumbles. This included keeping it from our kids and her side of the family. It was a normal part of life—Mum’s job took her out of town often, and Dad was always the one holding down the fort. We’d spend those weekends. Chicago offered the stability I needed in a job, friendship and at this point, a new relationship that all contributed to my healing in this new gay world.

In many ways, it a loving place for them, but I came to realize that teachers spoke openly against gay culture and textbooks labeled homosexuality as sinful and evil. Gay friends were just friends -- respected but their relationships not necessarily discussed.

Homosexuality wasn't a topic well discussed in our family. Gay marriage was in the news, but not discussed in our house other than the occasional negative comment from a close relative. It all began on a quiet Friday evening when Mum left for her trip.

We were all adjusting to a new, modern family, more like a family in transition. There wasn't much of a plan, no guidebook in hand, only goals that I hoped my boys would start the process of understanding and accepting their dad for whom I truly was: a gay man.

It was wrought with the happiness of finally telling the closest person in my true identity, while simultaneously ripping her world out from under her.